By PROUD & Kinky Staff / Photography by Cheri Amour Photography

How does your kink identity influence your creative work?

It comes up in a lot of ways. As a DJ, I tend to gravitate towards songs that are femme-empowered, as well as those that celebrate female dominance or supremacy. There is a LOT of industrial and Electronic Body Music with that topic. One of the reasons I like that genre so much.

As a performer, it shows up in how I present myself on stage. As a newer performer, it can be quite a challenge. In the moments when I feel dominant, I still feel like I’m not coming across as such, or I’m not portraying it strongly enough to translate to an audience. Interpretation in dance is a fickle mistress.

Photo of Ricky Rush by Cheri Amour Photography

As a queer event producer, it comes up in how I run the show. If you’ve ever seen me with a clipboard, you will know what I mean! I truly feel in my most powerful form when I produce queer and sex worker events. I have done it off and on for so long now, in several different cities, that it feels very natural.

What themes of BDSM, power exchange, or sensuality show up in your art most often, and why?

Number one, I wish that showed up more often in general is consent. One of the reasons I choose to slowly develop my domme persona and brand is that I want to be well-educated for safety purposes, and consent is a huge part of that. Consent and consent culture show up all over kink (or at least they should!) from the beginnings of negotiating a scene, to aftercare.

Another would be a strong but soft dominant energy. I LOVE getting to know myself as a soft femmedom. It speaks very strongly to me.. When I first started making fetish and kink clips back in the 2000s, I would play a cruel dominatrix more often, but now I prefer softer.

I think a lot of the time, when we think “femdom,” a lot of us will immediately imagine a bully dominatrix in shiny latex brandishing a whip… but that isn’t always the case! I love exploring spaces that are both dominant and soft.

How does BDSM empower or affirm your queer identity?

Even though I use the term femdom and femme dominant/top… I’m actually nonbinary! One of the most empowering things to me is having a submissive or bottom call me Daddy. It’s honestly my favorite.

What myths or misunderstandings about kink do you hope your work helps dismantle?

That just because someone is gentle and soft that they are a submissive or bottom! It genuinely isn’t true. I have explored that idea and spent a year or two thinking I was submissive/bottom, and what I discovered is that I’m not.

This is why clear communication and consent are so important!

What do you think the Las Vegas kink community needs more of?

I said it before, and I will say it again! Consent education. You shouldn’t ever make assumptions about other people and should always, always, ALWAYS ask.

This article was originally published in issue 7 of PROUD & Kinky Magazine. You may read it in its original format here.

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